We welcome Sam Standish today on 3 Chicks After Dark. He has a few questions he’s been asked regarding his latest release, Making Men, and he would like to share his answers with us. We appreciate Sam’s openness on a personal level and his insight into his new release. Making Men is full on erotica with mènage, kink and taboo relations, it is definitely not vanilla!
From Sam Standish:
Q: Making Men is quite tightly focused on the most specific, intimate details of man-to-man sex acts. How and why did you come to this choice?
A: I like my erotica blunt. Pants down, cocks up, plow and spurt. Bang the bed against the wall till the shelves crash down. That’s what excited me about writing erotica: the chance to be so straightforward. And I had another reason for the focus on the details of sucking and penetration and ejaculation. These things have profound meaning. When men are with men they may not create anything biologically, but they create something spiritual. The acts are without progeny, but they are not without products. So what is created? What do man-to-man sex acts mean? How do they make men?
Q: Have you ever participated in an ongoing threesome like the one in the book?
A: No. I have been in threesomes at sex parties or sex clubs. Some have been great. The men have been attentive and considerate and appreciative. I have been in the occasional one-off threesome in “real life,” but these have been more awkward, if occasionally hot. I’m a bit insecure, so I always fear with threesomes that the other two guys will be more into each other than into me.
Q: Two members of your threesome are uncle and nephew. What about that?
A: Well, the nephew is of age, the age difference between uncle and nephew is only a couple of years, and the uncle does not coerce or force. Everything’s consensual, often initiated by the boy. I am suggesting that familial love and erotic love are not as separable as we think, in their substance and in their goals.
Q: The character of Kevin says he’s had wild sex with some men who are not conventionally attractive. Who even have physical oddities. Have you ever had sex with men who were physically unusual?
A: A few times in clubs and or at parties I’ve had sex with men who were, to me, a bit unexpected. No one dramatically older or younger, though, and no one with an obvious handicap or unusual physical features. I have no issue with any of that; it just hasn’t happened. I did once have sex with a man with no anal opening. He didn’t tell me; I just figured it out after a little probing. I was sorry that neither one of us knew how to discuss it. It would have opened up a whole new level of intimacy.
Q: And then there’s the matter of guys with average or even small endowments…
A: Like Michael, whom Kevin befriends. I’ve had some amazing times with guys who happened not to be very big. Beautiful, sweet, generous guys. Hey, I’m not that big myself. In the case of Michael, we don’t know how big he is. He’s afraid he won’t be big enough for Kevin. When it’s all over, Kevin’s so in love that he really can’t remember any physical details. So we never know.
Q: You also address the age issue. Kevin has sex with a very old man at one point.
A: Yes. The editor suggested that scene. It was a trip to write.
Q: And there is a very young man…
A: Oliver. There is no sex in the Oliver episodes; they are about other, related things. I hope those episodes cause the reader to stop and assess what the book is really about.
Q: Making Men is unusual in that it mixes some rather severe spanking, paddling and caning with the fucking, though it’s not a BDSM book, per se. How did that come about?
A: I like corporal punishment, that’s all. I find the urge to spank an ass to be a natural part of the mix, not an activity to be segregated or thought of as in a separate silo. I like a good swat on my ass, some humiliation, and I like swatting other guys’ asses. It’s a lot like fucking, which I also enjoy from the top and from the bottom. Also, I wanted to explore the meaning, the psychological workings of punishment. I think I succeeded in that, but it makes your heart beat fast, too.
Q: Do you have some unusual spanking stories yourself?
A: I wish. A lot of guys who say they are into spanking back out or are uncertain. They want to be reassured that it won’t hurt. I understand. My own pain threshold is low, as I’m a busy guy and have never had the time to build up a lot of experience (I’m a spanking bottom as well as a top, you see). But what’s a little pain? I think guys are afraid to lose control. Or afraid of the aggression behind the pain. Once this guy was whipping me with a belt. His face and body as he cocked his arm and swung were scary. I saw that he meant to break me. It made the stroke of the belt more devastating than it would have been if I hadn’t watched it being delivered.
Q: One guy in the book even has his balls spanked.
A: I find that so exciting, though in the book the context is an unjust punishment that must be made right. The guy’s dad spanks his balls and his dick, too, when it’s hard. I did both to myself with a ruler, just to see what it was like. My balls ached for a little while, but it was a nice ache! With my dick, there was a very nice tingle.
Q: Semen is a recurring motif in the book, even more than in most erotica. Are you a semen guy?
A: Well, yeah, who isn’t? Lately I’m into bukkake videos. The ways those guys just shuck their clothes and spurt while the others cheer. I love when guys in porn cheer for each other’s ejaculations. I am bothered, though, that bukkake bottoms seem ill at ease or even resentful. I don’t blame them. There’s nothing for them to do. I think they are looking for approval, some kind of bonding with the big strapping guys who are going to shoot in their face, but they find out that anyone could have played their part. They are there to be a “good sport,” a nobody whose presence is technically essential but who is not allowed really to participate. Getting a facial, being cum on in any way, is an intense, intimate, loving experience. A bukkake bottom is being honored. Both sides should acknowledge it. The tops should hold the bottom after and help him get off.
Q: Are there other types of porn you like?
A: Here’s a funny thing: I like galleries of still shots from Fraternity X, this site with videos of frat guys who put themselves through school (so they say) by making videos portraying kind of casual guy-on-guy gang rape. The actors on the bottom are in some sense willing. No one’s going to put a real crime on film. Like I said, I like the still shots: the guys hanging out bareass and hard, maybe in sneakers, going at it like a competitive recreational activity. I like the others standing around clothed, wielding the cameras. But the actual videos turn me off. Too loud and angry, too much verbal abuse. Reminds me how quickly guys can cross the line. I feel weird watching stuff that portrays force and coercion as hot. One of their episodes is called “No Means Yes.” I can’t find a way to make that erotic.
Q: But in Making Men you have a scene that is like Fraternity X. The boy is not raped, but the fraternity guys gang up and make it clear that, once he has chosen to be their bottom, he has no choice but to proceed.
A: Yes, and elements of that scene excite me. But it’s just one scene, told a certain way to make a point, while being hot. While perhaps asking, “What exactly about this do you find hot and why?” The boy is not injured or traumatized. He is terribly disappointed, though. In the end he goes back to his uncle and Kevin.
Q: Are you in a relationship currently? What kind of sex do you have with your partner?
A: Yes, I am. We’re ardent but kind of vanilla. He has back problems so we have to be careful. Lots and lots of cuddling!
Q: Is your relationship open?
A: Technically, yes. Though neither one of us has a lot of time to take advantage of the loophole!
Q: Any celebrity crushes?
A: You mean celebrity fuck fantasies? Absolutely! In the porn arena my current crush is Peto Coast. His incredible energy is a turn-on and he has that pants-down-cock-up-fuck-and-spurt attitude I mentioned. He’s interesting in that, while he is handsome and well-endowed, his body is kind of average. I find that hot. Among mainstream celebrities I would totally fuck Daniel Radcliffe. And he’d love it. Not because he’s gay but because of the adventure of it. The sensation. I can see him bucking and writhing and yelling for me to go harder and deeper. He is so beautiful because he has such character. He’s so open. I love all those Brits with their fucking talent and their fucking smarts. Benedict Cumberbatch could just pound away on me. Ben Whishaw. James Norton. Andrew Buchan. Those are real men. Whishaw may be slight and boyish, but (are you listening, Russell Tovey?) anyone who can nail Richard II like that is a real man. With as much balls as any soldier or mountain climber or whatever; maybe more. American men seem kind of pathetic next to those guys.
Q: Do you go for anyone on “Downton Abbey”?
A: Oddly enough, no. Allen Leech is adorable, but I am not especially interested in fucking him. Robert James-Collier is too skeevy. Matt Barber, maybe. You know who really has character on that show? Kevin Doyle as Joseph Molesley. Short and bald but so fucking decent. I might fuck him. Or let him fuck me.
Released 25 March 2015
Published by Wilde City Press
Categories: Contemporary, Gay erotica
Three passionate men. Tony and Kevin are older and have learned to give, body and soul, till it hurts. Into their lives comes the boy, younger, wanting desperately to give and to take all he can. Together these three will reach heights they never imagined. And each will discover for himself where he has to go next. This is a tale of devotion and transcendence. A tale of young male bodies. A tale unlike any other you have ever read.
Sales link: Wilde City Press
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